the advice we give and receive, i am observing, is so heavily based on our experiences, that often we may not know what it is we are actually receiving or offering. i suppose, above all else: we must remember love, we must always choose love, but when it gets to the bones of it - we must apply respect.
i recently shared a hurtful experience with three very different friends, and received three very different responses. BUT - at the heart of all three: you are worth more, you deserve better.
we are all worth more than we believe. we all deserve better than we allow ourselves.
so - maybe in addition to respect: forgiveness? yes. forgiveness. of where the pain originated from, and towards ourselves (for allowing ourselves to be hurt to begin with).
and with forgiveness comes a sort of peace, and then hopefully joy. it could be (in a slippery slope way) suggested then that by choosing love we chose respect, forgiveness, peace and joy? (maybe.)
i have taken the foundation of all three advices and have accepted where i stand in the light of the truth of circumstances - as uncomfortable as it may be. moving on - with love.
i am happy. i am loved. i search for forgiveness and peace (and in some brief moments find it). it's all unknown to me, and for the most part i don't get it. but what i do got are amazing friends and family that exercise patience with me, and somehow manage to speak my language (on most occasions). above that - they have created a space for me to feel safe, and that is how i know. (thank you my usuals)
i recently shared a hurtful experience with three very different friends, and received three very different responses. BUT - at the heart of all three: you are worth more, you deserve better.
we are all worth more than we believe. we all deserve better than we allow ourselves.
so - maybe in addition to respect: forgiveness? yes. forgiveness. of where the pain originated from, and towards ourselves (for allowing ourselves to be hurt to begin with).
and with forgiveness comes a sort of peace, and then hopefully joy. it could be (in a slippery slope way) suggested then that by choosing love we chose respect, forgiveness, peace and joy? (maybe.)
i have taken the foundation of all three advices and have accepted where i stand in the light of the truth of circumstances - as uncomfortable as it may be. moving on - with love.
i am happy. i am loved. i search for forgiveness and peace (and in some brief moments find it). it's all unknown to me, and for the most part i don't get it. but what i do got are amazing friends and family that exercise patience with me, and somehow manage to speak my language (on most occasions). above that - they have created a space for me to feel safe, and that is how i know. (thank you my usuals)
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beautiful post... it came to me (personally) yet unknown to you--- the time of my life when needed the most. i am worthy of being loved and respected. so is everyone else who has the heart of forgiveness.
ps. you don't know me and i don't know you, but i enjoy what you bring in words to your blog.
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